Tuesday, February 28, 2006

Internal Work

I’m in the process of brainstorming an e-book.

I am interested in supporting women to get the concept that an often ignored part of wellness is the internal work. That the values we have in our everyday life reflect how we care for our body, mind and spirit.
For example: If conscious choice is a top value for you and you begin to notice your choices to take the best care of yourself begin to dwindle, perhaps your high respect for self kicks in and provides the inner support you need to get back on track.
If any of you have a story to share about a value that you have found to be an essential piece of your wellness puzzle I would love to hear it.

Monday, February 27, 2006

Purpose

"Purpose is the place where your deep gladness meets the world's needs."

-Frederick Buechner

What gives you "deep gladness"?

Friday, February 24, 2006

Being in your place

I’ve been working with a lot of individuals lately who are beginning to acknowledge the hold the cultural “doing more” world has on them. There’s a book titled My Ishmael by Daniel Quinn that has a wonderful way of reminding us that we aren’t all here to be the “doers”.
Just like some of us are small, tall, brown eyed, blue eyed …some of us have a slower rhythm… being in “doing” too much of the time isn’t what supports everyone to share their particular gift or passion.
There is a lot of societal pressure to be "doing more". One of my greatest wishes is that we do or not do from a place of conscious choice.
Is this in the best interest of my body, mind and spirit?
Give yourself permission to ponder where you fit and be willing to honor that.
Be comfortable knowing that when you are in your authentic place, you are giving your gifts in the finest way you can.

Thursday, February 23, 2006

breath

When I am in the wilderness there is a part of me that wants to slow down, take measured steps, breathe more deeply… stop being in a rush.
Nature has a rhythm that is so much slower than our fast paced lives.
How do we bring that rhythm into our everyday life?
For me it comes back to the breath, when I stop and focus on my breath the world slows for me and I feel ever so much more present.

Wednesday, February 22, 2006

Happiness

I have had many clients do the simple happiness test that I posted here months ago and guess what?
Hands down, the things that make most people happy are very simple everyday pleasures... that most of us don’t choose to do often enough!
Is Happiness a priority for you??

Tuesday, February 21, 2006

Accomplishing

I’ve been noticing lately when I am speaking with friends how often I hear “ I didn’t accomplish anything today”. They may have spent the day at home, doing some cleaning, reading, playing with a child, walking the dog and “they didn’t accomplish anything.” What I’m wondering… Is this having to “do” in order to “be” anything belief that I see so prevalent in our culture devaluing the little pleasures in life? Do you feel “guilty” if you sit for an hour and read or take time for a nap?
Is that how you want to feel when you are taking some time to give yourself a bit of pleasure? Do you begrudge others that time?
Coaching tip:
Simply notice how often you undervalue the simple pleasures in your life. What is your belief around accomplishing? Interested in shifting your perspective...

Monday, February 20, 2006

Getting or Giving

It's not what you get or what you have that's important.
It's what you give!


I want that to be the cornerstone of how I live. I observe our society and feel great concern for what we are modeling and teaching our children. The rampant consumer driven culture is supporting a lot of discontent and the desire to have more.
I'm not saying this as an all or nothing statement. It seems to me that when we have a lot of desires around having we have lost our center. When we are focusing on getting and having we aren't in our heart. Which for me, is where I want to live as much as possible.
How do you feel about it?

Friday, February 17, 2006

Root Vegetable Soup

Another hearty winter soup to warm the body!

2-3 tablespoons extra virgin olive oil
1 medium carrots, chopped
2 medium onions, diced
2 stalks celery, chopped
5 cloves garlic, peeled and minced
2 small red potatoes, scrubbed and chopped
1-2 small to med. Rutabaga, peeled and chopped
1-2 parsnips, peeled and chopped
1 can or 1-2 cups cooked white, pinto or cannellini beans
1-2 tablespoons white miso paste
1 fennel bulb, cored and chopped
6-7 cups water
Salt and pepper to taste

Heat the oil in a soup pot on medium heat. Sauté the onions, celery and garlic stirring frequently. When the onion is translucent add all of the other vegetables. Stir to coat. Add the water, it should cover the vegetables completely feel free to add more if needed. Cover and bring to a boil. Reduce and simmer for 45-60 minutes. Add the beans at any time. I take some of the broth and blend the beans as I have a child who won’t eat whole beans. It’s delicious either way.
Dissolve the miso paste in ½ cup of the broth from soup; turn off the heat to stir it in. Miso looses its nutritional value when boiled so be mindful when heating or reheating. Salt and pepper to taste.
You may garnish this soup with parsley, scallions, or a good Italian cheese. Pepper flakes are nice for those who like a little more zest.
This soup is good pureed as well.
Enjoy!

The core of this recipe is from a book titled "If The Buddha Came To Dinner" which is a great resource for anyone wanted to eat more healthfully.

Tuesday, February 14, 2006

The past

“ One can never change the past, only the hold it has on you.” – Merle Shain

This quote reminds me of why I love coaching. The way to release the past is to explore the hold it has on you. What are the beliefs or concepts that hold you back from living in the now? To be consciously honest with the fact that the past is holding you back is the first step to releasing its grip. Ignoring it or not looking at it won’t support your letting go. Letting go is scary. As Marianne Willamson says:
"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us."

Two years ago if someone told me I would be writing a blog and articles for a newspaper I would have thought they were off their rocker. My past had led me to believe that I couldn’t write and even if I could who would find it interesting. By working with my own coach and honoring my passion to support others to live balanced healthy lives, writing has become not only a venue to share but also a fun and creative part of my work that I truly enjoy!

What part of your past has a hold on you?

Monday, February 13, 2006

Kurt Vonnegut

I just finished reading "A Man Without A Country".
Kurt Vonnegut wrote this book at the age of 82. He's seen a lot and he shares with an integrity and authenticity that is a bit painful for me. I know the pain will pass and I will be able to share with my voice what he has given me.
Here is a bit of what he says:

" Our children have inherited technologies whose byproducts, whether in war or peace, are rapidly destroying the whole planet as a breathable, drinkable system for supporting life of any kind.

Anyone who has studied science and talks to scientists notices that we are in terrible danger now. Human beings, past and present, have trashed the joint.

The biggest truth to face now-what is probably making me unfunny now for the rest of my life-is that I don't think people give a damn whether the planet goes or not. It seems to me as if everyone is living as members of Alcoholics Anonymous do, day by day. And a few more days will be enough. I know of very few people who are dreaming of a world for their grandchildren."--Kurt Vonnegut

I do dream for my grandchildren, I do so want my actions to reflect that dream.

Friday, February 10, 2006

"We are now at a point in time when the ability to
receive, utilize, store, transform and transmit data
-the lowest cognitive form-has expanded literally
beyond comprehension. Understanding and wisdom
are largely forgotten as we struggle under an
avalanche of data and information."
--Dee Hock, Birth Of The Chaordic Age

I had a bit of reading time when I was gone this week and took a favorite book-
I Will Not Die An Unlived Life by Dawna Markova. I only read the first couple of chapters and found this quote to share with you.

Sometimes I feel alone in my uneasiness about the direction we are going and then I read a quote like the one above and I let out a big sigh...and am grateful for the written word and how it can reconnect me.

Friday, February 03, 2006

Caring for yourself

I'm going out of town tomorrow and will be not have access to a computer for the next week. I will be back and writing, next Friday the 10th.

In the meantime a little homework for those of you who read me often.

What would your day be like if you loved and supported yourself like a loving mother?

Each of us has a loving, nurturing side but how often do we use it on ourselves?

I was thinking about how mothers nurture and care for young children. Well-loved youngsters get their needs met and are able to ask for what they want with the belief that they deserve it. Many mom's wouldn't think of not feeding their child, making time for a nap, spending time doing something fun, acknowledging them for something they did that was great...


The homework of the week:
Picture within yourself the mother of your dreams. Someone who puts you first, supports you fully. As you connect to what you are feeling and needing bring to mind this mother image and allow your choices to come from her. Tired...rest, hungry...eat, need a hug...ask for one, don't want to do something...say no!

Care for yourself like you are as valuable as that beautiful three year old you once were.

Thursday, February 02, 2006

Time Management

I recently read a great article on time management that uses an analogy about runners.

I’m sharing it here because I feel it’s so valuable to remember that we are all built differently. We are not all meant to work at a breakneck pace and being with your natural rhythm can support you to be a happier, healthier individual.

Time Management Thriving to the Beat of Your Own Natural Rhythms
By Elizabeth McAloon, CPCC
www.TheMcAloonGroup.com

I don’t know about you, but I run screaming in the other direction when I come across time management how-to advice. I’ve been around the organizational block one too many times to believe that a trip to Staples and an armful of inboxes, file folders, and three-ring binders is going to magically fix my time management issues. However, I have learned a couple of universal time management concepts from working with individuals and teams, which Ill share with you here.

The first principle is that we don’t all work the same way. That’s why those time management seminars never stick. What does work is to understand your personal time management archetype and design your schedule in alignment with your natural rhythms and needs.

Think of your colleagues. If your office is like most, there is a diverse range of ways that people manage (or don’t) there time and work. I liken these working styles to sports archetypes: joggers, sprinters, power lifters, and marathoners.

Joggers are your colleagues who always seem to work at a relatively steady pace no matter what is going on. They don’t take a lot of breaks and they never appear particularly stressed. They’re not speed demons but they stay the course, and typically work 9 to 5.

Sprinters are those who work a bit faster. They have more erratic work patterns. You’ll see them working pretty hard, but you’ll also see them at the water cooler fairly frequently. Sprinters need to recover from the sprint and need a moderate number of breaks during the day; they also tend to be 9-to-5ers.

Power lifters are those people you imagine must secretly work at 2 or 3 am. They seem to be daydreaming a lot. You rarely see them working very hard and yet, miraculously, they get a huge amount done. These folks exert major efforts and can move mountains in a very short time. Power lifters, however, also need significant recovery time, and they tend to prefer irregular hours.

Marathoners are the workers who are at their desk at 7 am and are still there at 7 pm. It seems like they never stop! Marathoners work in a very methodical, moderate rhythm and they certainly go the distance just not as fast as the types above. Many companies like the marathoner-type employee best, though this preference can be unfair.

Although the above categories don’t capture everyone, you’ll find most people can identify, at least broadly, with one of these working styles.

Think about your archetype. Invent new metaphors to see if that works for you there are certainly walkers and super-marathoners out there. Create a category that is truly you. Think about how your type impacts your scheduling and your work capacity and rhythms. Don't make yourself right or wrong for being one type or another--simply notice how this impacts your workday and how this awareness can benefit you and your team.

Power lifters, for example, tend to like to work intensely in shorter blocks of time. They dive into a project with great focus for a few hours, and then they need a long break. What they have accomplished in that time may take someone else twice as long. However, they need to stop working or slow down for a significant amount of time to recuperate. Power lifters can also manage to work non-stop for a few months "on a mission almost to the point of collapse, then need to rest for several days or even weeks. Sprinters, on the other hand, work at moderate intensity, but just need short breaks to regain their energy.

Once you identify what your style is you can arrange your schedule to work with it. For instance, a sprinter might design blocks of time during the day to focus on a project, and build in breaks at key junctures. Of course, this is easier if you can work independently. When you are working with others who have different rhythms it becomes more challenging. However, if you’re aware of your bosses working styles and those of your colleagues, you can devise a way to coordinate your time with them.

If you are planning a team project, have a candid conversation with your group about their working styles and what you expect and need from them. Consider their styles and try to honor them to the greatest extent possible without sacrificing work quality. The most progressive teams create a Designed Alliance [1], a discussion and agreement on how people want to work together. It’s an outstanding method for bringing out the best in everyone involved. Executive coaches often work with teams to teach them how to create Designed Alliances.

If people are asked to work outside their archetypes, too often they’re likely to be unhappy many without understanding why. There can be a vague sense of dissatisfaction and not being understood or appreciated. Some might feel exhausted because they have not had adequate time to recharge.

Another challenge many people find is that in some corporate cultures, there is a strong preference for one working style usually the marathoner. "Face time, or the time spent sitting at a desk in the office working, is often misused as a gauge of an individual’s contribution to the organization. This unfortunate climate can lead to power lifters, sprinters, and even joggers feeling unappreciated and burned out while trying to seem like marathoners. Certain industries are more prone to rewarding the marathoner even if the other archetypes are producing as much, at as high a quality, as the marathoner. There is a machismo about marathon working.

The truth is that we need all of these archetypes in organizations. Even more importantly, we as individuals need to cultivate sub-archetype abilities to be able to navigate not only the daily routine, but also unusual circumstances special projects, urgent deadlines and client crises.

Wednesday, February 01, 2006

Salad as a meal

Even in winter its good to eat some raw vegetables.
We’ll have this with soup or as a meal in itself with some whole grain bread.

This recipe is approximately four servings as a meal.

Red leaf lettuce or mixed greens – one head, washed dried and torn
3-4 carrots
¼ -1/2 head of cabbage
1 bunch green onions
1 red or yellow bell pepper
½ cup walnuts (or nut of choice)
2/3 cup of cooked or canned pinto beans
Optional- feta or parmesan cheese- ½-2/3 cup, parsley or cilantro
Toss it with dressing and serve with whole grain bread

Dressing:
1/3-1/2 cup extra virgin olive oil
Juice of one to two lemons (depending on size)
Approximately 1 tablespoon of light miso

Blend ingredients together, add salt, pepper as needed, and adjust other amounts to taste.